You met, you fell in love, had sex – all the time. You put a ring on her finger and started a family (not necessarily in that order). By most standards, you’re living the American dream—except that your sex life seems to have gone the way of the rotary phone.Instead of breathlessly ripping off each other’s clothes once your baby finally falls asleep, you’re nodding off in front of the TV, shirt stained with pureed carrots. Why didn’t anyone warn you? As a sex therapist and father of two, I’m here to tell you what your married friends won’t about being a husband and father. And if you want to talk more, just visit me at Good in Bed, where I’ll be talking about these issues all week.
3 Things They Don’t Tell You About Marriage
1. You will often feel like you’re in prison. This is only natural when you go to sleep and wake up next to the same person day after day. Some people get married and feel like they have to do everything together—they merge completely. And then they wake up one day, and it’s like they’re living that Talking Heads song: "This is not my beautiful house...this is not my beautiful wife...how did I get here?"
Quick fix: Great couples are great individuals. Don’t be afraid to go your own way sometimes. From guys’ and girls’ nights out to the occasional separate vacation, maintain individual identity.
